The Good Egg: Start The Week With Self-Compassion
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Good morning! It’s Monday morning and this week we’re going to talk about how to have compassion for ourselves and compassion for others.
Let’s look at the world for a moment. Although we come from different backgrounds, encounter different situations, and deal with things differently, we all want the same thing…happiness.
We may feel like finding happiness is out of our control, but in fact, most of it is in our control. How do we view each moment and event in our lives? Are we optimistic or pessimistic? What does our self talk look like?
Watch this awesome 3 minute video to see how children and adults deal with difficult moments, and realize we’re not so different after all.
My Personal Experience
I have recently begun to incorporate self-compassion in my life. I realized I am very hard on myself. I look at others who make mistakes and I always find ways of forgiving them, giving them the benefit of the doubt, or supporting them in some way. Why don’t I do this for myself?
I went for a run one day and felt awful, throughout most of the workout. At the end of the run, I was mad at myself for feeling slow and sluggish. I realized later, that my mentality just ruined a perfectly good run. I never stopped running, I never gave up, so why was I so mad at myself?
On my next run, I decided to focus on self-compassion and see if that made a difference. I told myself things like “I am strong and only getting stronger. I am proud of myself for taking this on. I’m only getting better.” These little pep talks did wonders.
As we know, the brain has plasticity, which means it can change over time. Neuroscientist, Tania Singer, did a study in 2012 and discovered that “training compassionate responses may therefore increase the resiliency to aversive events.” This means that by practicing self-compassion and compassion for others, “networks associated with positive affect, reward, and attachment” are strengthened, increasing our ability to deal with difficult situations (Mindful Schools).
Try to find moments in the day to say phrases like:
May I accept myself as I am
May I learn to accept myself as I am
May I forgive myself
May I be strong
May I be patient
Let’s do it yolks!
Have a wonderful Monday, Good Eggs!
-The Good Egg 🐣